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Coronado Bridge Suicide May 07

I apologize ahead of time for writing about such a depressing topic. But it too is a part of living in Coronado and I always feel so sad for the victims and their family and friends…


Coronado Bridge

Coronado Bridge

Coronado Bridge is such a beautiful bridge. I love driving across and looking out over the bay. Either direction brings a beautiful vista – Coronado itself, Point Loma and the ocean to the west and Cowles Mountain and other ranges to the east.

But, the Coronado Bridge has a dark side. It is tragically a popular spot for suicide. In fact, it has the third highest number of suicides of any bridge in the country.

As of the beginning of December 2009, 236 people had died in suicidal falls from this two-mile-long stretch.

But you won’t hear about most of them in the news. You’ll hear about them in the grocery store line, on Twitter, from friends and neighbors. Or sometimes you will horrifyingly witness them yourself.

Such was the case last year as my husband and I were driving east on the bridge heading out of town for the week.

And such was the case yesterday when yet another desperate person plunged to their death after leaping over the side of the bridge.

Last year I frantically texted and twittered friends and acquaintances to find out if the person had by any miracle survived. I had a friend who had seen the young woman stop her car mid-span and thought it odd because there didn’t seem to be anything wrong with the car. She too was horrified to learn that the woman had jumped.

After a day and a half I learned from someone who talked to inside sources who wished to remain anonymous that the woman had died. I also learned that if a person jumps into the water and survives, the case comes under the jurisdiction of the Coronado or San Diego Police department depending on who responds and which side of the bridge the person is taken off. These cases appear in the news.

However, if a person jumps into the San Diego Bay and dies, the case comes under the jurisdiction of the San Diego Harbor Police. The Harbor Police have a strict non-disclosure rule about suicides and so these cases never appear in the news.

Kevin Caruso of Suicide.org says that in his interactions with people who have survived a jump from a bridge, their experiences are eerily similar.

Almost without exception — immediately after they jumped, they wanted to survive.

He goes on to say that over 90 percent of the people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death.

And because depression is the most common mental illness, untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide, and depression and other mental illnesses are highly treatable.

Some of the other “suicide bridges” around the country have erected barriers and others have approved future barriers. Back in the 1980’s when the suicide toll was the highest; most everyone backed a plan for a barrier on the Coronado Bridge. Everyone that is but Caltrans.

Do you think a barrier should be put up on the Coronado Bridge?

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71 Responses

  1. 1
    OnTheRockSince1960 

    Anyone who wants a barrier can get out their wallets and pay for it themselves. Suicide rates nationally almost never change. A barrier may make them choose another spot or method, but it won’t save any lives. The 163 overpass is a great example of one such foolish venture.

  2. 2
    Mary Taylor 

    Installing a barrier would stop suicide jumpers and needs to be installed.
    I lost my son last year from a fatal jump from the Coronado Bridge.
    No family should have to experience that pain.

  3. Mary I am so very sorry for your loss and the pain and suffering your son’s death has caused you, your family and friends. I hope that you are finding some healing and that you will continue to feel stronger every day.

  4. 4
    Kiah 

    I think they should install a barrier. SF Golden Gate bridge needs one too.

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  6. 6
    D 

    “Almost without exception — immediately after they jumped, they wanted to survive.”
    That’s because many people who commit suicide are uncertain and conflicted.

    But not everyone is — there IS such a thing as rational suicide. I’m in psychology, and the fact that most mental health professionals refuse to recognize rational suicide is a BIG problem.
    The fact is, human love in this age has become disgustingly pathological — and attitudes toward death are even more pathological. We would much rather see someone we “love” continue to suffer for us (SO THAT WE DON’T HAVE TO BE SAD) than to let them go (because then we’d be SAD. boohoo for us). To me, that is the epitome of selfishness. And on top of that, it’s inhumane.

    If you install the damn barrier, people who are committing rational suicides will undoubtedly find some other (less instant, less effective, possibly more painful) way to do it.

  7. 7
    D 

    One more thing:
    What this “desire to survive” actually IS needs some further investigation. People have an innate instinct to live (obviously). And even when a person is in a situation where there is no way whatsoever to justify continuing to live, THE INSTINCT PERSISTS — because it’s an instinct. So even if cognitively the person knows that suicide is the ONLY rational option, when they are in that moment, they will still (instinctively) have second thoughts.

    And you have to ask yourself: how do we know that this experience that survivors have ISN’T some kind of distinct suicide survivor syndrome that hasn’t yet been identified? (It sounds JUST like the type of feelings a person experiences after ANY brush with death, suicidal or not.)

    But your propaganda doesn’t take any of this into consideration. Which is just as well, I guess, as propaganda doesn’t try to appeal to reason, it only tries to appeal to emotion.

  8. 8
    dave 

    let them jump lowers population survival of the fittest

  9. This was my friend who jumped, the other day as you mentioned.
    I think a barrier should be installed, and tax payer dollars should be used. (definitely OnTheRockSince1960′s money, you cheap bastard. )

    One other thing is I would like to see the bridge suicide non-disclosure thing with the San Diego harbor police thing eliminated some how, because it is clearly a way for the San Diego Harbor police to minimized what actually happens, without having to give statements to the media or any explanation to anyone the San Diego Harbor Police is keeping crime down to a minimum, and people arent able to be aware of what is really going on.

    I feel that the public should know that depression and suicide are affecting lots of people

  10. 10
    Lisa 

    No one should ever be instructed as to how they should live their life, or how long they should live, nor should they be instructed as to how they should pass.

    People who want to commit suicide are typically conflicted, pain-bearing people. I believe people should have the right to choose the way to live and the way they want to die, if that is indeed how they choose to end things.

    Yes, suicide is tragic. But it’s mostly only tragic for the people the troubled souls leave behind.

    Suicide only really hurts the “victim’s” loved ones. I placed victim in parenthesis because truly, people who jump to their death, or swallow pills or do any other act to INTENTIONALLY end their life, they are not victims. Most suicides are carefully planned. Sure, people who have survived the fall, or the overdose, or whatever fate the person decided to bestow upon themselves end up deciding that in the end they didn’t want to really die… but they were given another chance, and that really just means that they have unfinished business here on earth that they have to accomplish before they go. But who is anyone to tell someone they can not end their lives in the manner they believe is prudent?

    I’m in no way, shape, or form a depressive person, nor am I suicidal. I do not believe that my life could ever end up in a condition that I would see fit to end by my own actions intentionally. However, I understand angst, sorrow, and pain beyond comprehension, and I also understand many parts of the human condition, and the rights we should possess as people, including the right to live, and by your own decision, die, by your own standards.

    It is never any one else’s right to tell someone how they should live or die. Never. You are not that important. Just remember that. You might hurt and miss that person, but ultimately, it is that person who has to live with their tormented soul, and they should have every right to decide whether or not they should have to live with it. I’ve lost friends to suicide, and I’ve always wondered if I could have said/done something differently to help or avoid the situation. In the end? The answer is always the same. No, I could not have, because I never walked a single minute in their shoes… in their mind. They lived every second of their life in those shoes… in that mind. I love my shoes and my mind, and that is my decision, and mine alone. And if I changed my mind and didn’t anymore, it should never be my responsibility to live for you to be happy in knowing that I’m still here, suffering and in misery, so you can be comfortable with my presence on this earth.

    Food for thought.

  11. 11
    mike 

    I do not believe barriers save lives.

    I do believe they cost money that we don’t have right now.

    And I also don’t think setting up a net or other barrier is going to do anything except get them in more trouble when they try, which will add even more pain/grief to their already troubled life, leading them to attempt again elsewhere.

    People live troubled lives; between the unemployment, family issues, the drug war, and other problems, there isn’t really any place to turn these days that actually resolves a lot of the problems people have. We can’t just rely on drugging people with antidepressants to make them feel better any more.

  12. 12
    Jim Lewis 

    I personally don’t think that it would do any good. If a person wants to do away with them self they will find a way to make it work for them this would just be a large experience for the state and take the beauty from a work of art.

  13. 13
    Jduffy 

    I love Coronado myself, got engaged there, love to walk the beach on weekends, but, yes, the Bridge has a dark side. Again, on 2/20/12, we had another suicide. This one was captured on YouTube. I viewed the video and was heartbroken. It’s one thing to hear about it but to see it was horrifying. I cried my eyes out and did not know this man. It appeared that there was no crisis counselor, clergy, etc. talking with this man. Only a few police officers who seemed to be clueless as to how to deal with a person in this state of mind, one even appearing to be smirking Clearly the man was conflicted, pacing back and forth, as if not totally committed to jumping. It was as if he was up there by himself, the officers simply watching. I don’t believe in this case a barrier would have helped–I think a caring person with kind, compassionate, caring words just may have.

  14. 14
    Jessica S. 

    I happened to stumble across this post researching for my friend’s suicide that happened last week. I didn’t know the event wouldn’t be in the news, but I do now. The bridge absolutely needs to have a barrier put up. All of us right now are completely devastated from his decision. None of us are sure what caused him to jump. You may have heard about it on April 24.

  15. Jessica, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I happened to be out of town that week and so did not hear of this suicide. It is difficult to be the ones left behind with only questions and no answers. I wish you all positive healing energy.

  16. 16
    Kimberly 

    Last night we lost an amazing boy, Bobby Mansueto. He drove to the Coronado Bridge and took his own life near midnight. I hugged him less than a week ago and he told me he’d see me in two months. This was not a boy who wanted to die. This was not a boy who was mentally ill. This was a child who was going through some tough times and, at what he felt to be his lowest point, drove to the Coronado Bridge because it was easy and accessible. Bobby was a sweet, generous, loving soul who has saved many lives by just being who he was. If access would have been more difficult this unnecessary loss could have been prevented. The fact that this and past suicides are not publicized is a complete disgrace. The fact that Caltrans chose not to back a plan for a barrier in the 1980′s is unacceptable. This was a senseless tragedy and at the very least should be made public so others are able to witness what good a barrier could do to help deter these attempts and save lives in the future. Had Caltrans backed the barrier 30 years ago, Bobby may still be with us today.

  17. 17
    Kimberly 

    Who does one contact in order to attempt to change the San Diego Harbor’s non-disclosure rule and to insist a barrier be added to the bridge? This has been ignored for long enough.

  18. 18
    Christy 

    Bobby was my little cousin and we are all hurting from his passing. He was suppose to come visit us in two weeks and spend time with us. He was such an amazing person even as a baby. It had been years since we had seen him but u can tell he had so much to live for . Please pray for his family and especially his mother who is hurting beyond belief. To all his friends : embrace his mother, stay by her side and help her get through this time. Please seek help if you too have these feelings because there is nothing worse than ending your life so young. Life is tough, the older we get the harder it is but don’t be afraid to reach out for help. We all go through hard times but there is someone who has it worse and they keep fighting. Take this huge loss of a wonderful person and use this pain to stop yourself from making the same decision. A huge void was left in the world today. We love u bobby u r now a guardian angel watching over everyone. Xoxo little cousin

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    Stacy 

    I just lost my Uncle to a suicide on this bridge. June 10th 2012 @ around 11am. He was getting ready to retire from the Navy..20 years! My hearts go out to others whom experienced this. Please keep my family in your prayers as we grieve. I had to google this bridge as I live out of state and am horrified to find it is this popular to suicides. Yes mental illness does play a huge part, and perhaps if their were nets/safety barriers…there would have been a failed attempt another way, and then perhaps he could have seeked help that he needed to remain here on earth with us and his wife and child. My heart aches that others have experienced this and will continue to experience because of this damn bridge.

  20. I am so sorry for your loss Stacy. Our prayers and positive healing energy go out to you and your family. The longer you live in Coronado or if you are tragically touched by a suicide, you realize what a dark secret Coronado Bridge suicides are. I wish there was an answer…it is very sad to hear of so many deaths.

  21. 21
    daniel 

    I don’t believe a fence that blocks the beautiful bridge should be placed but a net could be a good option, as they jump they would be saved by the net or they would not jump at all knowing the net is there.

  22. 22
    Stephanie 

    I got stuck on the bridge in traffic tonight when a young man was threatening to jump. My heart ached as we drove by when they were clearing traffic. This was the third person in 2 days. One stopped Tuesday the 19th and one jumped. I was wondering what happened to the young man tonight. I hope he didn’t jump. It is scary how much it is happening and my heart aches for those who have lost someone that way. I do think something needs to be done.

  23. 23
    E 

    I saw a near-jump last year while coming home from work. I saw this woman walking from the San Diego side “mad as hell” and ready for business, but the police were on it. After a while of negotiation, everything looked kinda calm, she turned and went over the side. One of the officers lunged forward and grabbed her by her jacket and pulled her back. I didn’t see that youtube video but I imagine it was taken out of context. Who knows what brings someone back from the edge. Alot probably gets said while this is going on, perhaps they try joking with these people to get them turned around. What kind of person would wish the hurt that suicide incurrs? Even the folks stuck in traffic would think differently if they thought that it was someone they knew. I had no idea so many people jump from the bridge each year. Of course we should do something. What happened to all those dollars they collected while they extorted 50 cents a trip from us. Can’t they extend something from the catwalk that already exist underneath?

  24. 24
    Gb 

    I lost a very important friend to suicide on this bridge on July 17th.. I don’t know how to cope. The person who commits suicide is never the victim but the loved ones left behind. Anyone that can help me thru this…please pray for me and his family.

  25. 25
    bikerchris 

    Gb…I just heard some terrible news that one of my friends might have been the one who jumped yesterday….I cannot reach him or get a hold of his family….I dont want to believe it….I just wanted to know if we are talking about the same person….if you do not want to say his name on here can you please at least put his initals…

    Thanks

  26. 26
    chris 

    I have a very close friend that jumped on july 17 2012 I love him, very much and I am very sorry I didn’t see any signs that he was so depressed. REST IN PEACE Felipe Hernandez * u always make me smile stash

  27. 27
    Jasmine 

    My brother-in-law jumped off that bridge tuesday morning of July 17. If all who know him please pray for him and his family if you will. No one expects this to happen in any family. The best way to cope with this lost, is to pray and cry out to Jesus. He is the only one that can bring you comfort and peace in this time of grief. Thank you for the support. Its greatly appreciated.

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    annette 

    Hi, I am the mother of Felipe’s daughter, the man who jumped off the coronado bridge on july 17th 2012, i want to thank EVERYONE who attended his services, He is truly missed by EVERYONE, he loved and will continue to love from up above, there was many that knew him and many that i bet wish they knew him, because if u knew felipe, thats what it was, right? lol! i love him dearly and i am blessed with our first and his only daughter Aida! I am truly grateful for him, he did the best he could to be a part of his daughters life, even when he was locked up, FELIPE aka STASH i fucken love you man, i am now at peace and believe that u know I’m a great mother to have left me alone with our princess!

  29. 29
    Gb 

    Annette I am sorry for your loss and I pray for you and your daughter…tears came to my eyes when Aida spoke at the viewing. She is a very strong girl!!

  30. 30
    ss 

    What I don’t understand is why there is no cell service at the top of the bridge!!! Maybe some get it, but AT&T drops. Perhaps this should be corrected??!!

  31. 31
    YESKA BROWN 

    REST IN PEACE BIG STASH!!!!LOVE AND MISS YOU DOGGY….STILL PRAYN FOR YOU FAM
    WE LOST A YOUNG OG!!!!SD AINT THE SAME WITHOUT YOU…..

  32. Thanks, Cookie for keeping this topic up. I lost a close friend and employee this week and am gearing up to advocate for a net on the Coronado Bridge. I don’t know the science of suicide, but there is some anecdotal discussion about the benefit of reducing jumping opportunities. When my friend said he was ending “the drama” I doubt he would have wished the calamity that resulted to those who love him.

  33. 33
    marcela hernandez 

    My brother Felipe Hernandez Jr jumped off the bridge on July 17, 2012. I thank everyone that came to support my parents & our whole family. Please pray for his kids & the family that is left behind. I still cant believe hes gone. My little brother was the life of the family, his jokes and humor was one of a kind that can never be duplicated. Nothing seems the same to me since i received that call early Tues. morning, my days seem pointless..If I could take all your pain away I would of Jr. I would of done anything & everything for you. I love you with all my heart jr. & i will never ever forget what you brought into our lives. You are & always will be in my heart & in every breath i take. May you rest in peace & look over all of us that truly love you. I LOVE YOU JUNIOR!!!!

  34. 34
    Unknown 

    I didn’t know Felipe had a daughter, only about his son. Eh

  35. 35
    Gb 

    Marcela your family is in my prayers. I am so sorry and I wish I could take Way everyone’s pain who is hurting. Junior was very Important to me. He is what made me laugh and smile every day. He will forever be in my heart.. May god bless you and his kids and the rest of the family.

  36. 36
    Linda Reynolds 

    TO all the people that said jumpers would find other means to commit suicide, sorry you are dead wrong.

    As for D who claims to be in psychology, I seriously doubt that, unless you slept through your courses.

    It is well known, based on empirical research, that suicide is often an impulsive gesture. If a bridge (esp a famous known for suicide span) or gun is not nearby people often ride out the crisis and survive the impulse.

    If I am forced to subsidize coroporations and uber rich who cheat the tax system or set up shell companies in the Cayman Islands, or have my taxes pay for illegal wars, I have no issue paying for something that actually saves lives.

    Now if you just don’t care please say so but don’t rationalize your indifference to these poor people by pretending you are speaking fact.

    You are not. A good man I knew jumped a few days ago. Of course there was no mention of it on the news

    You have no idea how many good people have lost their lives.

  37. 37
    Veronica 

    Felipe was loved by many and always will be. Marcela you and your family along with all three of his kids are in my prayers on a daily basis! I will forever hold his memory close to my heart, Love you always JUNE BUG! xoxo, LIL WORM

  38. 38
    annette 

    To unknown: Felipe has 3 kids, Aida, Dominic, & Lucky, thats the order they were born….
    All this makes me cry, I LOVE ALL of the “HERNANDEZ” Family… my daughter has met alot of her family since STASH has passed, It is awesome, my daughter has found 1 lil brother she never met till the viewing and he fell in love with her. Aida loves those 2 lil boys SOOOOO much, as well as her cousin DANNY!
    I am thankful for them sooo much, seriously if AIDA didnt have them I think she would of gone crazy, she hurts and her pain hurts me so much!

  39. 39
    Mike 

    Its been almost a month now since my uncle Felipe passed. I remember as kids we would get in trouble. I I remember when my uncle made my Tia Marcela mad by throwing a fire cracker in her car. It feels like just yesterday we were hanging out talking about the good old days, how happy we were. I miss all the jokes my uncle used to text me. When I heard by my sister that my uncle had passed I didn’t and couldn’t believe it. I called him and no answer, I text him, the text to him is still on my phone but no reply back. I wish we had more time together uncle, I wish my kids had time to see you and see how loving u were. I love you uncle and u will forever be missed.

  40. 40
    Dj 

    I miss my best friend, junior. There is not one day that goes by that I do not think about you. If I could I would of took away all your pain. It saddens me to know that you were hurting and I didn’t even know…you were so special to me and I am not sure I ever told u. Since 2010 we talked daily…so many questions left unanswered…
    I do not think that any one will ever make me laugh like u did.
    We would stay up all night prank calling people laughing so hard til we almost peed our pants….oh and how we met was the best story of all. I wish I would of hugged you last time I saw u , instead of u Leaving mad x:(
    I feel for your children and your family and the pain thst this has caused them. I don’t want to be mad at u but fuck I miss u junior
    What happened to the house with a back yard and the 69 chavelle in the garage??
    The past couple times I saw u, udidnt look so good. We had that talk. The talk about u need to act right…I was worried aout u.
    No matter how much time passes you will always be number one to me junior..
    Today is exactly a month since u left all of us…;,(
    Oh and all the girls sad cuz mr romeo left , claiming to be your gf..I can’t be mad, cuz you were so special to so many people ….you truely were mr Romeo..
    I love u junior…

  41. 41
    Aida 

    I MIss You Daddy ;( </3

  42. 42
    Tracy P 

    My VERY DEAR friend Angela committed Sucide off the Coronodo Bridge last night. Yes, she was batteling deppresion. How lonley she must of felt. We will all miss you Angela!!

  43. 43
    Marcy 

    Tracy, I knew Angela many years ago and remember her as a beautiful young woman. I dated one of her husband’s good friends. I was shocked to hear the news yesterday. I knew she was struggling but seemed to have everything in order from what I was told. I am sad to hear that she thought this was her only option. I have a friend that is battling depression and she has very recently opened up to me about her feelings. I simply can’t grasp some of the things she says about herself sometimes, I see her in such a different light! She is seeking therapy now for the first time in her life. I realize now that depression is so POWERFUL and will be sure to let my friend know that I am always there to listen no matter how bad her thoughts are. I am so devastated for Angela’s husband it will no doubt leave a scar and that’s the horrible thing with suicide it leaves everyone that Angela left behind who loved her no closure, unsettled, questions left unanswered. My hope is that he heals and I’m so sorry for both you and he and all of her friends and loved ones that will miss her. I know there are many people keeping all of you in their prayers. :)

  44. 44
    Ammber A 

    Angela was my Godmother and my mom’s best friend in the whole world and I loved her so very much. I can’t remember the last time I heard her voice and I had no idea she was ever in any pain, but I’m glad she’s not in any now. I’m sad for the way her life ended and that I’ll never get to see her beautiful face or hear her infectious laugh. I don’t ever want to see this bridge again in my life. I see no beauty in it now. I am so sorry Chris and I love you very much and you will always be in my prayers.

  45. 45
    Jan MacKay 

    Thank you for mentioning this. It was my daughters life long childhood friend that was the jumper and yours was the only mention we could find on this. Unfortunately the young wonderful women that jumped felt so desperate not to have been able to relate to someone else before she chose this option.
    She was my granddaughters God Mother too, so she will be missed by so many that loved and knew her.
    Its a beautiful photo of the bridge but such an awful thought of our dear friend leaping from its heights.
    Thank You

  46. 46
    Summer 

    My best friend Angela for over 30 years jumped off Coronado bridge Saturday morning. I dont feel that it was truly her, she was lost somewhere. There are so many factors that have played a role in this terrible, hurtful and sad ending to such a beautiful life. She was someone you always wanted to be around. She was my daughters Godmother and she was my inspiration to succeed in life and I feel more than a great loss now. Angela will be missed by so many that loved her. I love you Angela.

  47. I had not heard about Angela’s suicide, even though I live in Coronado. It saddens my heart to hear of the loss of the life of an obviously much loved woman. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you and I wish you positive healing energy. May the happiest of memories help you through this very difficult time.

  48. 48
    Ruben 

    R.I.P Angela,.. We love you and miss you dearly!
    The Parga’s

  49. 49
    dawn 

    Angie…RIP you willbe missed at alvarado..we love you

  50. 50
    Cheryl 

    I am so glad everyone wrote something about Angela. I was stunned and disbelieving when I heard. I meet Angela 10 years ago and have worked with her on and off since then. When I heard at work what happened I looked everywhere to verify because I wanted it not to be true. I couldn’t find any information. I am been heart sick since I heard and am comforted to hear how much she was loved. We who have worked with her liked and respected her. She helped a lot of people she worked with and we will miss her.

  51. 51
    Dorothy 

    Omg I just found out about Angela, we used to work at Alvarado in DOU together…She was amazing person..I’ll miss her.

  52. 52
    Summer 

    Angela’s Obituary is online in the San Diego Tribune for anyone wishing to leave thoughts or express any condolences to her husband or family in the guestbook. I know Angela would love to know so many of us cared, cherished and will miss her. I would love to know you, hear your stories of Angela as I have many to share too and how you know her, please feel free to email me and I will do the same. Summerflo@yahoo.com. Thank You Coronado Cookie for this blog to help us grieve and express our thoughts. In times of disbelief, sorrow and pain we will seek out anything about our loved ones in hopes to find out anything.

  53. 53
    Hurting still 

    It’s been 2 1/2 months since my best friend Felipe Hernandez aka junior, jumped off the bridge. Not ONE day goes by that I don’t think about you. I spent so many hours at your grave talking to you, crying and just wishing you were here. I wish I would of known that the words you were telling me had a deeper meaning. You told me you were tired, needed a break, that you were un happy and I said man up. I didn’t know how serious it was. I lived you more than anyone will ever know. I still look at your picture and visualize all the fun times we had together. I wish I could of helped you in some way, I wish I could of said good bye. I’m still dealing with this pain and it the worst pain I’ve ever gone through.
    You will always be special to me junior…
    As for Angela and everyone who is the Family or friend of a suicide victim, my thoughts are with you as dealing with a suicide is the worst of any deaths. Us left behind are the true victims. I would love to advocate for suicide prevention, a barrier or anything that stops this impulsive act. Also if anyone is intetested in grieving class for victims of suicides , once I find one I will post it. God bless everyone and you all will be in my prayers ..

  54. I cry a little with every post… I am glad to offer the space offer everyone to connect, support each other and to grieve.

    If you would like to set up a memorial page, please let me know and I will create one.

  55. 55
    Hurting still 

    To Coronado cookie
    I thank you and this website allowing me to post here and helping me get through this. So many of us fail to realize how many people actually jump off this bridge to a painful death and how it affects the people left behind so much. Th police do not disclose jumpers nor does the news talk about it. I think creating a memorial page exclusively for people who have jumped off the Coronado bridge and passed away would be a wonderful idea. We need to find ways, for ourselves, to honor our loved ones in a special way. I can help you as well create it or anything that is needed.
    Also the rock church has a support group for families and friends who have lost loved ones to suicides. It is in point loma at the rock church every 2nd and 4th Thursday of the month from 6:30 to 8:30.
    Another good website is http://www.twloha.com
    My heart breaks fir everyone who posts her but just remember you are loved!!

  56. 56
    blue 

    Those of you who have lost someone to suicide should consider attending the Survivor Day conference to be held Nov 17th. It will be a place to connect with others and find resources to help you in your grief. go to the afsp.org website and find san diego chapter.

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    kristal sais 

    oh my jr just like still hurtn said I 2 wish you would of said sumthing real as a matter of fact last time I saw u 3 days before you passed at the bar we wud go to weekly just to talk bout how i was doing with my guy currently busted you always wanted to know bout me always telln me if i was ok n the last time i seen u i saw you looked tired I saw you looked all bad i asked you wat was goin on u stared telln me I just laughed and said the same shit man up n now I regreat sayn that to u everyday since u been gone. I luved u like a brother and wish you were still here, i fuckn miss you Stash

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    Hurting still 

    I miss you junior.I’m sitting here crying trying to pick up the pieces and figure out what went wrong. You were such an amazing person and I am sorry if I failed you as a friend. I should of seen the signs..
    I love you junior

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    ANNETTE 

    02/19/2012:
    if you were still alive…. you would be so proud of me… calling me “DJ NO SKILLS” what chu know bout your baby momma djing outside the bob marley fest on sunday, lol. whos “dj no skills now?” lol i take you with pride and joy when i go DJ, i love you so much. i miss you so much. OUR BBY GIRL MISSES YOU SO MUCH!
    Man….. what can i say? i am depressed because your crazy ass is GONE! its so unreal still and i freakin cry everytime i think of tuesday morning…Aida had to tell me the bad news, her eyes… Felipe…. Ive never seen them so swollen and red before, ever! and she wasnt high ok, lol! just an FYI: Justin hooked her up for her bday… gave her about 270$. he loves her so much…. I wish you were here, she cant really eat! her demeanor has changed, she isnt the same, were not all the same… I LOVE YOU!!!!!! REST IN PEACE STASHER!!!!

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    rocky 

    Feb 14, 2013 I lost my husband, my Gordito. Miss so much he has left me and my 21 month old baby girl with such emptiness. I can’t believe u r gone and I cry everyday . It’s so hard when our daughter ask for you it kills me. I knowmit was not u when u were on that bridge u would not jump , it was urban illness who took you as everyone’s tell me. I know u loved US too much. I will always love you and have you in mymheart. So many people that loved you now u are in a better place and we are here hurting much because u r gone our life’s have changed for ever u leave me with our treasure our beautiful daughter that everyday looks more like you! Please give me the strenghtbto keep fighting in this faked up world. Ur wife always.

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    hurting still 

    Rocky
    Would you like to talk? I too can relate to you. If you need someone to talk to then leave maybe an email address. I also know some support groups than can help you. I will keep you and your baby in my prayers…

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    Johnny 

    Not one, but two of my brothers jumped from Coronado bridge. It is so depressing to look at the bridge.

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    Lin 

    These stories are so sad. I had no idea just how notorious this bridge was. My uncle jumped from this bridge to his death in march of 2008 after fighting with his wife. He was 25 and left behind a baby as well. I never saw it coming. His wife won’t speak to our family since his death and moved, so we are left in the dark about the whole thing and haven’t seen the baby since. The baby would be about 6 years old now.

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    unknown 

    Every time i hear someone jumps from this bridge my heart stops. everytime i hear someone commits suicide now I feel pain. I avoid going to any where that reminds me of you. Today I went to go visit you and someone was having a burial service. I felt pain. When I saw your grave it made me smile. I remembered how amazing you were. You left so much behind and so many people that hurt. Your Family misses you so much. I cant even look at the bridge without hurting. its been almost 9 months. It feels so recent. I miss you so much. You were such a big part of my life. Today I couldnt stop thinking of you. I wish you could come to me in my dreambut it never happens but i suppose that is good and means you are resting in peace. You will forever be my June bug…
    Felipe Hernandez 10/29/82-7/17/12 <3

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    Unknown 

    Thinking of you a lot today Felipe. My heart hurts for you..

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    Stephanie 

    My friend – Denise S. took her life on the bridge yesterday. I am desolate. Unbelievable pain. My heart goes out to her family and friends. You will be so missed – dear sweet friend. Good journey. Grief is overwhelming.

  67. I am so very sorry for your loss Stephanie. I had no idea someone had committed suicide yesterday…

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    Kristi 

    This is all so sad. I had no idea so many people jumped off the bridge. I visit Coronado often and as I was leaving last night I saw a man considering jumping. The officers were just pulling up to talk to him as I was going by on the other side of the bridge. Any idea if he jumped. I sure hope not. I prayed for him since that was all I could do…

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    gloria 

    Stephanie
    I worked with denise in 2012. She was a beautiful and nice woman. May her rest in peace.

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    Dj 

    Its been almost two years since I lost you Felipe. It still hurts like yesterday .i miss you! !!♥

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    Billy 

    I want to jump off this bridge soon.

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